Overflowing….

There are times when I feel so blessed and thankful to God. I get feelings of gratitude. Genuinely, blessed for genuine reasons. I feel so positive that I want to start many new activities at that time. Like, few days back, I was thinking to start a gratitude journal.

I would want to write affirmations on few days. I would want to keep smiling and ofcourse I feel happy at that time.

But then, there are times, when I feel so shattered. Is this life? I ask myself. I get so many Whys and Hows to which there are no definite answers. Every relation feels superficial except my parents’ love for me. “You don’t get everything in life”.

I have heard this many times. May be I would have said the same to someone myself. It’s easier said than to understand and console oneself. I feel like I have taken few wrong decisions in life. But then, I think, may be these are my KARMAS. No one can escape the outcome of their bad Karmas. I want to tell myself “grow up girl. Welcome to life. Being the youngest in family does not mean, you’ll be the sweetheart to all forever. Be confident and just grow up”.

At times I feel what have I earned in life. What have I done to be loved and remembered. Relations you get, friends you earn, they say. I don’t even have genuine friends who would come to me when I would be in trouble. (Except 1,may be). I feel so envious when I see those pictures of people with their friends and family on social media.

I was always an under confident, shy and an introvert child. A bit depressed as well. I never felt beautiful. I never truly enjoyed my childhood and teenage.

No one told me you are beautiful. No one told me to have confidence. No one told me to enjoy without worrying about anything. No one told me, you are not less than anyone. I want to relive my life and do all the corrections. At times, I want to runaway and go far and live with my parents and my daughter. Away from people who bring negativity in my life. I have heard people say to avoid negative people. But, it’s not feasible in every situation. There are few people who are there, just there. You can’t avoid them. You can’t run away from them.

I am over flowing with emotions today. I’ll motivate myself to start a new day from tomorrow with a positive mind set. Let’s see, for how many days that’ll sustain. It’s a continuous & hard process to stay positive and insane.

May God bless us all 🙏

Divya Srivastava

Why do you blog?

There are so many articles in WordPress talking about how to blog, blogging prompts, effective way of blogging, how your blogs should be SEO friendly, how to increase traffic on your blog by using the right words. People also say that one should write on the trending topics to get maximum traffic.

These are completely valid points. But I don’t follow any of these. The question is Why do you blog? What motivates you to blog?

Well, following the above instructions, one would be able to get more and more traffic on one’s blog, expand blog family and would be able to get monetising opportunities and much more. Ofcourse, I also intend to do that and get the opportunities. I also want to expand my blogging world and be a flourished blogger. But, if I’d follow the above mentioned instructions as of now, it would be too technical for me and the feel of writing would vanish.

For me, blogging is an emotional release. I write from my heart. I don’t research my topics and get information from internet and formalise my posts. My articles are purely my thoughts put into words. It’s a therapy for Me. I feel better, lighter, happier when I write. I love to read other blogs and appreciate the boggers as well. I like to share my opinions and suggestions as well which you know, are not very welcomed otherwise in general day to day life.

This is a platform where I can pour my heart without filters, I can be opinionated and may be I would be able to monetise my blog in future, who knows? I started this blog in 2019, when I was going through a rough and challenging phase. I really needed something to which I could stick and forget my pain and since then, my blog has been my constant and loyal friend😀🦋.

I get really excited when I get even 1 new follower. Whenever I see bloggers who have followers in hundreds and thousands, it motivates me and I also dream to reach till there and beyond. I want to become a popular blogger & gradually I’ll learn the technicalities as well, but, my way.😎

You tell me, why do you blog?

Happy Blogging,✨🪄

Divya Srivastava

My 11 tiny moments of happiness😀

We often look out for big moments or I would say much noticeable ones to feel happy. Let’s say, going on a holiday, buying some expensive clothing, gadget, automobile or whatever. Getting desired results in academics, at work etc.

It is pretty much obvious these moments and achievements will bring happiness and there is nothing wrong in looking out or waiting for these. It is absolutely fine and you must.

However, while doing so, we forget or I would say, we fail to notice the small and tiny moments in our everyday life that brings joy and makes our lives more livable, smoother and happier😊.

So, today I want to share few of my small & tiny moments or things that brings a smile on my face😊 and makes me look forward to another day.

🦋A kadak adrak Chai ☕. I am an absolute tea lover and I just love the adrak Chai ( Ginger Tea ). I can’t tell you the kind of satisfaction it gives me specially when I’m exhausted or just not in the good mood and it is heaven in winters.(I’m having it even while writing this blog)😂. You won’t believe I look forward to my morning and evening tea😋.

🦋 The warmth of a blanket in air conditioner and in winters makes me so cozy & comfortable. It brings a warm smile to my face.

🦋Talking to my mum. Meeting her is a bonus. Even a small talk on call (our call sessions are normally not small though😂) makes me happy.

🦋 Similarly, talking to my bestie. We gossip, we bitch, we share and what not on call and meeting her is so fun. We have not met since a year due to Covid.

🦋Red wine with pizza and mix sause pasta is an absolute delight which I love.

🦋I feel so relaxed, content and happy when my husband returns from office early or atleast by 8 in the evening. I feel he is the one who brings shine & light to our home and to my life.

🦋 Now, that I’m a mommy, seeing my girl smile,laugh and play makes me so so joyful. She will complete her 5 months on 22nd of this month.

🦋Spending time with myself. Getting some ME TIME.

🦋 Blogging is love.

🦋Self care and self grooming makes me happy.

🦋Watching movies & series with my hubby at night is something, I always look forward to. I never enjoy watching something without him.

So guys, What are your small moments of happiness?? Notice them and let’s share😀.

Stay happy ❤️

Divya Srivastava

Postpartum Blues

The moment you guys will start reading this post, you are going to think that Divya just keeps talking about her baby and things related to her.

Well, this is the reality and this is my life now. Specially this postpartum period. I am going mad and crazy. Immediately after my delivery, in the first 40 to 50 days, I was waiting to get back to my normal diet and normal daily activities. I mean that period is meant for complete rest and a full fledged healthy and heavy diet. And I was waiting to get out of bed, get dressed up, start my weight loss programme, start my normal daily activities. Actually, I am not that sort who can just be in bed all day resting in payjamas. Then finally after around 1.5 months, I started getting to normal routine gradually. I felt good about myself and loved spending time with my girl and taking care of her.

To my horror, as soon as she completed 3 months, my hairfall began. I had heard of it that women experience postpartum hairfall but didn’t knew that it starts after few months of delivery. So, till 3 months, there was no hairfall and I thought I am the lucky one 😂.

But no, hairfall has started and my hair falls in clumps even if I touch them☹️.

I am so stressed. It gives me a nightmare and I feel I’ll go bald if it won’t stop soon.

However, as per the information via internet, it will stop on it’s own but when, that varies from person to person. It can stop in 3 months or 6 months. For some it can go on till 1 year which is horrible. I keep praying for my hairfall to stop as early as possible.

I have gone through a lot of videos on YouTube and every one says it’s completely normal and happens with all as the estrogen (hormone) drops after delivery, so the hair which didn’t fall throughout the pregnancy will fall now. It’s a complete hormonal game guys 🥴.

This phase of hairfall is called Telogen Effluvium.

I can’t express my state of mind currently. This was about my hairfall. On the other hand, I am struggling to lose weight. I exercise for 30 minutes as of now(I am thinking to increase the time) and follow a balanced and mindful diet. Normally, it is said that weight loses at a faster pace in the beginning, then it slows down after some time. But, mine is quite slow in the beginning itself. I get so anxious at times. I guess this is what is known as Postpartum Blues. Thankfully, my baby is really sweet and she doesn’t disturb me much at night and let me sleep.

In another 1 month, my maternity break will get over and I’ll have to resume office which is another challenge as I don’t have anyone from family. It’s just me and my husband. Hopefully, I’ll be working from home due to Covid.

Well, this is my everyday life these days. I just hope everything gets normal soon. Mother hood is an incredible and beautiful experience but the whole journey, starting from pregnancy to the postpartum 1 year is really difficult. I can say this since I have and I am experiencing the same. Hats off to all the mothers🤠🤠.

Hey guys, share your experiences and journey about your pregnancy, motherhood or postpartum in the comments section. Let’s discuss with each other. We might feel better and also can learn from each other’s experiences🥰💜.

Love & Light,

Divya Srivastava

1000 Likes – Milestone

Hi WordPress family,

I am so happy and joyful today. I feel so ecstatic to share that I have touched 1000 likes on my blog.😀😀😀 Yes, I know, it is a very small number for many out there, but, it means a lot to me.

1000 likes means 1000 people dropped by, spent their precious time to read my posts and liked them. I thank all of you from the bottom of my heart ❤️.

I never thought I would reach till here when I had created my site. But now, it is just one step of the staircase for me. I am so motivated to write more and expand my wordpress family, get more & more likes and followers.

I just love to blog🤩. Guys please, send me your good wishes that I touch 1000 followers soon.😇

Happy Blogging,

Divya Srivastava

Self Motivation

Self motivation is the only element that will take you to places when life is hitting you hard. Else you’ll be knocked down and the game will be over.

I have realized this in the recent times. No amount of counselling will help. Friends and family will support you morally to an extent beyond which you’ll have to collect yourself and your scattered thoughts and motivate yourself to start a fresh beginning, or give a second chance or find solutions to the problems.

When I am in pain, it feels as if I am the least favourite child of God and He is punishing me for my wrong deeds.

It fills me with guilt and anger. I cry a lot and get extremely dissatisfied with life. I feel like I have to struggle a lot for simple things in life which others get very easily. Even, I don’t expect much, just the basic things and pleasures of life which everyone is entitled to.

Struggling in such situations creates a lot of negativity in my mind. At times I pity myself. In such situations, I keep myself aloof. I don’t feel like talking or meeting anyone.

But you know what, I am a strong woman. I just don’t give up easily.

I keep struggling through such situations. I motivate myself and keep moving ahead. And while doing so, I have realized that it’s not just me. Everyone is going through their fair share of problems and miseries. So, it feels little better and balanced😝.

Tips to motivate yourself

  • Make lifestyle changes – start exercising, eat a healthy and balanced diet.
  • Watch motivational and positive videos.
  • Keep yourself occupied through out the day.
  • Start reading.
  • Try to form some good habits.
  • Be focussed on your goals and find solutions to the problems.
  • Try and smile as much possible.
  • Get rid of negative thoughts.
  • Make it a habit to think positively in every situation.( I know, it is hard but keep trying)
  • Imagine the bright future of your struggle and keep moving ahead.
  • Listen to light and happy songs to elevate your mood.

I was wondering, have you ever felt the same like I have articulated my emotions?

Let’s talk🙂

Love & laughter🤩😁

Divya Srivastava