Overflowing….

There are times when I feel so blessed and thankful to God. I get feelings of gratitude. Genuinely, blessed for genuine reasons. I feel so positive that I want to start many new activities at that time. Like, few days back, I was thinking to start a gratitude journal.

I would want to write affirmations on few days. I would want to keep smiling and ofcourse I feel happy at that time.

But then, there are times, when I feel so shattered. Is this life? I ask myself. I get so many Whys and Hows to which there are no definite answers. Every relation feels superficial except my parents’ love for me. “You don’t get everything in life”.

I have heard this many times. May be I would have said the same to someone myself. It’s easier said than to understand and console oneself. I feel like I have taken few wrong decisions in life. But then, I think, may be these are my KARMAS. No one can escape the outcome of their bad Karmas. I want to tell myself “grow up girl. Welcome to life. Being the youngest in family does not mean, you’ll be the sweetheart to all forever. Be confident and just grow up”.

At times I feel what have I earned in life. What have I done to be loved and remembered. Relations you get, friends you earn, they say. I don’t even have genuine friends who would come to me when I would be in trouble. (Except 1,may be). I feel so envious when I see those pictures of people with their friends and family on social media.

I was always an under confident, shy and an introvert child. A bit depressed as well. I never felt beautiful. I never truly enjoyed my childhood and teenage.

No one told me you are beautiful. No one told me to have confidence. No one told me to enjoy without worrying about anything. No one told me, you are not less than anyone. I want to relive my life and do all the corrections. At times, I want to runaway and go far and live with my parents and my daughter. Away from people who bring negativity in my life. I have heard people say to avoid negative people. But, it’s not feasible in every situation. There are few people who are there, just there. You can’t avoid them. You can’t run away from them.

I am over flowing with emotions today. I’ll motivate myself to start a new day from tomorrow with a positive mind set. Let’s see, for how many days that’ll sustain. It’s a continuous & hard process to stay positive and insane.

May God bless us all 🙏

Divya Srivastava

Why do you blog?

There are so many articles in WordPress talking about how to blog, blogging prompts, effective way of blogging, how your blogs should be SEO friendly, how to increase traffic on your blog by using the right words. People also say that one should write on the trending topics to get maximum traffic.

These are completely valid points. But I don’t follow any of these. The question is Why do you blog? What motivates you to blog?

Well, following the above instructions, one would be able to get more and more traffic on one’s blog, expand blog family and would be able to get monetising opportunities and much more. Ofcourse, I also intend to do that and get the opportunities. I also want to expand my blogging world and be a flourished blogger. But, if I’d follow the above mentioned instructions as of now, it would be too technical for me and the feel of writing would vanish.

For me, blogging is an emotional release. I write from my heart. I don’t research my topics and get information from internet and formalise my posts. My articles are purely my thoughts put into words. It’s a therapy for Me. I feel better, lighter, happier when I write. I love to read other blogs and appreciate the boggers as well. I like to share my opinions and suggestions as well which you know, are not very welcomed otherwise in general day to day life.

This is a platform where I can pour my heart without filters, I can be opinionated and may be I would be able to monetise my blog in future, who knows? I started this blog in 2019, when I was going through a rough and challenging phase. I really needed something to which I could stick and forget my pain and since then, my blog has been my constant and loyal friend😀🦋.

I get really excited when I get even 1 new follower. Whenever I see bloggers who have followers in hundreds and thousands, it motivates me and I also dream to reach till there and beyond. I want to become a popular blogger & gradually I’ll learn the technicalities as well, but, my way.😎

You tell me, why do you blog?

Happy Blogging,✨🪄

Divya Srivastava

Postpartum Blues

The moment you guys will start reading this post, you are going to think that Divya just keeps talking about her baby and things related to her.

Well, this is the reality and this is my life now. Specially this postpartum period. I am going mad and crazy. Immediately after my delivery, in the first 40 to 50 days, I was waiting to get back to my normal diet and normal daily activities. I mean that period is meant for complete rest and a full fledged healthy and heavy diet. And I was waiting to get out of bed, get dressed up, start my weight loss programme, start my normal daily activities. Actually, I am not that sort who can just be in bed all day resting in payjamas. Then finally after around 1.5 months, I started getting to normal routine gradually. I felt good about myself and loved spending time with my girl and taking care of her.

To my horror, as soon as she completed 3 months, my hairfall began. I had heard of it that women experience postpartum hairfall but didn’t knew that it starts after few months of delivery. So, till 3 months, there was no hairfall and I thought I am the lucky one 😂.

But no, hairfall has started and my hair falls in clumps even if I touch them☹️.

I am so stressed. It gives me a nightmare and I feel I’ll go bald if it won’t stop soon.

However, as per the information via internet, it will stop on it’s own but when, that varies from person to person. It can stop in 3 months or 6 months. For some it can go on till 1 year which is horrible. I keep praying for my hairfall to stop as early as possible.

I have gone through a lot of videos on YouTube and every one says it’s completely normal and happens with all as the estrogen (hormone) drops after delivery, so the hair which didn’t fall throughout the pregnancy will fall now. It’s a complete hormonal game guys 🥴.

This phase of hairfall is called Telogen Effluvium.

I can’t express my state of mind currently. This was about my hairfall. On the other hand, I am struggling to lose weight. I exercise for 30 minutes as of now(I am thinking to increase the time) and follow a balanced and mindful diet. Normally, it is said that weight loses at a faster pace in the beginning, then it slows down after some time. But, mine is quite slow in the beginning itself. I get so anxious at times. I guess this is what is known as Postpartum Blues. Thankfully, my baby is really sweet and she doesn’t disturb me much at night and let me sleep.

In another 1 month, my maternity break will get over and I’ll have to resume office which is another challenge as I don’t have anyone from family. It’s just me and my husband. Hopefully, I’ll be working from home due to Covid.

Well, this is my everyday life these days. I just hope everything gets normal soon. Mother hood is an incredible and beautiful experience but the whole journey, starting from pregnancy to the postpartum 1 year is really difficult. I can say this since I have and I am experiencing the same. Hats off to all the mothers🤠🤠.

Hey guys, share your experiences and journey about your pregnancy, motherhood or postpartum in the comments section. Let’s discuss with each other. We might feel better and also can learn from each other’s experiences🥰💜.

Love & Light,

Divya Srivastava

Teachings to my daughter

I cannot be thankful enough for the blessing in the form of my girl that GOD has bestowed upon me. I can’t believe HE has been so kind to me. I always wanted a girl deep down in my heart and HE knew and fulfilled my secret wish😇.

There are few things that I, as a young girl learnt and understood much later in life, but I would teach my girl to help her create a strong foundation since the beginning itself.

So, this post is dedicated to my little love ❤️.

Dear Shivantika,

Here are your foundation life lessons.

🦩Beauty is not defined by your skin colour, your weight or height. Ofcourse, fitness is important, but, for your good health and your own sanity. It doesn’t define your beauty.

🦩Your beauty lies in your confidence, your kindness, your knowledge, your forgiveness, your respectfulness, your eagerness to learn, your playfulness, your fighting spirit, your ambitions. It lies in your hearty and carefree laughs, in your smiles, in your cries.

🦩Value yourself and never self pity.

🦩Be confident always, no matter the situation, the place, the people, the mood.

🦩 Show some kindness in this cruel world.

🦩Be respectful towards all, no matter young or elder. Walkaway from people who don’t reciprocate.

🦩Have your opinions and never hesitate to share them politely and humbly.

🦩Never seek validation for your looks, your thoughts, your opinions, your acts from others. Be self assured. Be truthful to yourself and others.

🦩Never break anybody’s trust on you.

🦩Follow your heart not people.

🦩Go out, make friends, enjoy life and always remember, your mum has your back.

Always loving you,

Your mum❤️

Shivantika is just 4 month’s old as of now. I hope I would be able to inculcate these lessons in her upbringing.

Let me know if you all want to see her. I would love to share her pictures here😊🥰.

Full of gratitude,

Divya Srivastava

Do you like CHANGE?

How many of you like CHANGE or you even look forward to that? Any kind of change, at workplace, in your relationships, at home, in daily routine or any thing that you may think of. Well, not many, I am sure. Am I right? I think, that’s quite normal because we get accustomed to our daily routines, we get comfortable with our old friends, family members and relatives and we become a pro in performing the old jobs at work every day. We get so used to, to the existing pattern of life, that we dislike any change for which we might have to make different kind of efforts and for some changes, we might have to come out of our comfort zone as well. When I say existing pattern of life, it means, we are doing nothing new, we are following the same course each and every day and most importantly, we are in our comfort zones. Well, I don’t know about others, but any kind of change, definitely gives me a kick. I am NOT saying that I LIKE changes, but somehow I always look forward to change. It can be any kind of change. The weird part is this, even if I know that the upcoming change would be unfavourable to me or might be difficult to cope up with, still it kind of gives me an excitement. I don’t know if this is normal or people may find my personality a bit strange.

What I have analysed about my personality based on the above is :

  • I like challenges.
  • I get bored very soon with the same pattern of life each day.
  • I believe in myself that I have the capacity to deal with anything.
  • I believe that I am not completely utilizing my capacity to do whatever needs to be done or what ever I want to do.
  • I am a firm believer that life offers different phases and each phase of life must be enjoyed.

 

Do you find me strange or can you relate with me if you have similar personality traits like mine?

Do share your thoughts with me.

 

Looking Forward,

Divya Srivastava