Putting myself together..

Hi guys. How are you all doing?

I don’t know why am I asking this.Well I know, no one is going to respond, like – “hey I am doing good. What about you?” I’ll be glad if some one does.

Well, I have been out of sight, out of time and out of focus and didn’t post anything in a month’s time. To begin with, I was buzy with family wedding and all, then office, then entangled in my swinging moods, my emotions, my thoughts, my shaking focus and what not. So, I don’t know what happened to me and is still going on that I am kind of losing my positive energy, my enthusiasm and my positivity as a whole. I am kind of feeling angry and anxious. It feels like nothing is falling into place. So much is there to be fulfilled and time is running short. I even don’t know why am I writing this all here, but it’s just coming out.

The good part is, that I know and I am able to realize that I am falling into the pit of negativity and I have to come out of it. So, today, I was figuring out the things to do which shall brighten up my mood and help me see the way out of this shit that is happening to me.

Well, I miss my friends whom I haven’t met since a long time. I have realized that, it has been sooooo long that I didn’t actually have had real fun and let my hair down without any formalities, without any judgements,without any worries.

Specially, real fun with all my girlfriends. I have very few however. Oh, I miss that sooo much. I was missing my blog as well. So, I came here and what can be better than sharing my unfiltered thoughts to get back to myself. I don’t know if anyone can relate with me. If any one has felt like this at times. I think it is fine to have such anxiousness at times as we are humans, but the important part is that we must be able to cope up and get over it.

I have all the wisdom if you notice😂.I just have to implement my wisdom and make things better and I am trying.

Smiles to all🙂😊😁😬

Divya Srivastava

Self Motivation

Self motivation is the only element that will take you to places when life is hitting you hard. Else you’ll be knocked down and the game will be over.

I have realized this in the recent times. No amount of counselling will help. Friends and family will support you morally to an extent beyond which you’ll have to collect yourself and your scattered thoughts and motivate yourself to start a fresh beginning, or give a second chance or find solutions to the problems.

When I am in pain, it feels as if I am the least favourite child of God and He is punishing me for my wrong deeds.

It fills me with guilt and anger. I cry a lot and get extremely dissatisfied with life. I feel like I have to struggle a lot for simple things in life which others get very easily. Even, I don’t expect much, just the basic things and pleasures of life which everyone is entitled to.

Struggling in such situations creates a lot of negativity in my mind. At times I pity myself. In such situations, I keep myself aloof. I don’t feel like talking or meeting anyone.

But you know what, I am a strong woman. I just don’t give up easily.

I keep struggling through such situations. I motivate myself and keep moving ahead. And while doing so, I have realized that it’s not just me. Everyone is going through their fair share of problems and miseries. So, it feels little better and balanced😝.

Tips to motivate yourself

  • Make lifestyle changes – start exercising, eat a healthy and balanced diet.
  • Watch motivational and positive videos.
  • Keep yourself occupied through out the day.
  • Start reading.
  • Try to form some good habits.
  • Be focussed on your goals and find solutions to the problems.
  • Try and smile as much possible.
  • Get rid of negative thoughts.
  • Make it a habit to think positively in every situation.( I know, it is hard but keep trying)
  • Imagine the bright future of your struggle and keep moving ahead.
  • Listen to light and happy songs to elevate your mood.

I was wondering, have you ever felt the same like I have articulated my emotions?

Let’s talk🙂

Love & laughter🤩😁

Divya Srivastava

Please Listen….

Never lose a person in your life who not only talks to you, but listens as well. Having a good listener in your life is essential for a peaceful mind. But, we should not take that person for granted, and must understand that a good listener also expects to be listened.

I want to shout out to people and tell everyone to come out of your social media applications and leave your mobiles aside for some time and talk and listen to the people around you, at your home, with your spouse, your children, your parents, at work with your colleagues and where ever you go, whom so ever you meet. Please talk and listen.

What I have observed is, there are 3 types of people :

  • People who talks a lot. They keep on blaberring without even understanding the other person’s interest and they are not even interested to listen to anyone else or talk about anything which do not interests them.
  • People who talks less, so they end up listening more.
  • People who understands the value of a dialogue between 2 people. They are the wisest community of people. They talk, understand the other person’s emotions and listen to them as well.

Lack of communication creates lot of problems in relationships, be it with friends, family or colleagues.

People who are outspoken, who likes to talk, do not want to listen. There are others who wants to talk but their desire is overshadowed by their reserved nature. So they hesitate and shy away from sharing their thoughts. As a result, they keep their thoughts and emotions to themselves and surround themselves with people who talk more, so they can listen. Opposite attracts, they say!

This is the problem. People don’t understand the value of a dialogue. Only one person talking, and the other listening is called a monologue.

This is my request to everyone reading this post, that give the other person a chance and an opporrunity to be heard. Let THEM also talk. If you care.

So, few of you must be wondering that “my spouse, or my friend or my mother generally talks less. That is their nature. I am always ready to listen”. I completely understand these thoughts. But, my friends, we need to understand, that they are reserved people and hesitate to talk openly, no matter, they are filled with varied emotions. Such people tend to burst out when they get saturated.

So, we need to help them. As per my understanding, let me share few ideas with you.

  • Ask questions. Instead of expecting that person to initiate the conversation(which will never happen), make them talk. Questions “like how was your day?”, “anything new or exciting happened today or recently?”. Share your stuff and ask if he/she has ever been in the similar situation. Ask generally about the people he/she keeps in touch with.
  • Give them the comfort zone. Make them realize that they are not being judged for whatever they feel or talk.
  • Pay attention when they are talking and give them importance and make them realize that you want to listen to them.
  • Assign tasks(if possible), such as weekend planning, vacation planning, planning a party with friends, preparing a shopping list or whatever comes to your mind. This will make them do their homework and will be forced to talk about the subject and eventually their emotions related to it.

Let’s help each other, atleast to those whom we love and care.🧡

Share your ideas, stories and thoughts about it. I would love to read it.

Love & laughter🌸🤩

Divya Srivastava

Experimental Reading

Hi Guys, I have started reading a new book called “Rich Dad Poor Dad” written by Robert T. Kiyosaki.

The title some how attracted me, and after reading the synopsis, I decided to give it a try. This is a kind of experimental reading because this is the first time, I am reading something like this. Normally, I read fictional love stories with different story angles. Generally they are written by Indian authors, like Ravinder Singh, Nikita Singh, Durjoy Dutta to name a few. So, I am reading a book by International author for the first time.

This book is a best seller since 20 years and celebrated it’s 20th anniversary in April’ 2017.

This is not a book review. Hence, I’ll not share much details about the book as of now. Let me finish the book, post which I’ll share my views and the review ofcourse😎.

Till then, take care👍🌸

Divya Srivastava

Will You Still Love Me – Book Review

Hi friends💁‍♀️I have been reading this book since few days and was able to complete it yesterday itself. So, I thought I should share my views with you all and help you decide whether you would like to read it or not.

But yes ofcourse, it will be a very brief synopsis, not killing the suspense😎

Title : Will You Still Love Me

Author : Ravinder Singh

Genre : Fiction

Synopsis

Will you still love me is a love story of a north east girl, Lavanya from Meghalaya who is an independent and a strong lady working in Google and Rajveer from Patiala who runs his family business.

They are poles apart but happens to meet on a flight by chance, only to meet again and fall in love.

I love how the author has articulated Rajveer’s love for window seat on the flight, his discomfort in giving the window seat to Lavanya and her thoughts about Chai and Coffee.

The way Ravinder has described their trip to Meghalaya, each and every place that they visited and their whole experience, I could picturize the complete Meghalaya just by reading the book. I felt as if I am also experiencing the beauty of Meghalaya with them.

It is a love story with a satire on the corrupted traffic police and on the careless people who do not follow traffic rules and take it very lightly.

It shows, how Rajveer’s careless attitude towards traffic rules and road safety destroys his happily ever after and he learns a lesson for life.

My Rating :

4 out of 5

A must read for people who like to read fiction.

Let me know your views on the book.

Love and Laughter🤩😂😁

Divya Srivastava

Procrastination

I was about to ask “has it ever happened with you?”, but then I realized what a stupid question to ask😝. I believe, everyone on this planet, at some point of their lives have experienced procrastination. There can be exceptionally gifted people, who might have not faced it. People next to God, I must say!

So, for the people who are not really versed with this fancy term – Procrastination simply means an action of delaying or postponing something.

Most of us do this on a regular basis. We have a habit or let’s say, a tendency to postpone things.

A call to be made to an old friend to revive the friendship that we keep postponing. “I’ll definitely start preparing for exams from tomorrow”, that’s what most of the students say to themselves everyday. “I’ll start exercising from next week”. “I’ll start eating healthy from next month”.

“My job sucks, my boss is a monster. I’ll start searching a new job immediately.” But we are too lazy for that immediate action. Organizing the wardrobe keeps shifting from one weekend to another.

Tomorrow never comes and time will not wait for us. We’ll keep losing the time and the postponed tasks will keep on piling up creating stress in our minds and instilling the guilt. Procrastination is a kind of disease with which we have to fight each and every day. Still, it keeps coming back.

Talking about myself, I am a kind of a person whose mind gets stressed like anything if there are pending tasks around. So, few months back, I was visibly stressed due to lot of pending tasks, some of which I could have done on my own, but procrastination came into the picture. I decided to find a solution to reduce my stress and a thought striked my mind. I thought that if I cannot even accomplish the tasks that are in my control, if I cannot take control of my own body, my mind and my thoughts, then my existence is useless. This thought jolted me out. That was the day I decided to fight against procrastination and inculcate a more organized lifestyle.

Overcoming Procrastination

Overcoming procrastination is not a 1 week or a 1 month process. It is a challenge that we need to fight with, every day. At times we cannot avoid it completely, since we are humans and we tend to get lazy at times (which is fine), we prioritize our work due to which few things remain unattended or postponed anyhow and we fall short of time as well. However, talking about all the difficulties in dealing with it, there are few tricks which can help us sail through.

  • Postponing things once in a while is fine but when it happens often, say to yourself that “I am the incharge of my body, my mind and my thoughts. I have complete control on myself and I will not postpone any task, however big or small.” Trust me, it works.
  • Set reminders on mobiles. Use sticky notes and paste it in front of your desk at office and in your room at home.
  • Treat yourself with a small reward on completing every pending task. An ice cream of your choice, a movie. It can be anything which will make the whole process enjoyable.
  • Tell people around about your work. So that, they may keep asking you about it and it will keep reminding you.
  • Think about the person who criticizes you for your unorganized behaviour. Organizing your work in a better way will give you an opportunity to brag in front of that person.

These are few tricks. There are many more, I am sure. Work towards it and see what works for you to deal with procrastination. Also, find your own personal tricks and ideas to deal with it and do share with me👍🙂

Smiles & happiness to all🤩🥰

Divya Srivastava

Learning..Sharing..Growing!!

Recently, I got a chance to attend NLP( Neuro Linguistic Programming) workshop conducted by Mr. Ram Verma, where I got an understanding and overview of how our thoughts in our sub conscious mind affect our actions. How we can train our 100 billion neurons to achieve whatever we want in our lives. Ofcourse, it requires rigorous training and years of practice to achieve that level where you can take complete charge of your brain.

But, what caught my fancy was the discussion on supreme motive of human life.

So, I have learnt that the ultimate motive of our existence is Learning, Sharing and Growing!

This made me to think that how can we keep learning new things when we are all occupied in our daily lives. Most of us have a fixed daily job. We do the same kind of work daily, monthly and yearly. We have expertise in our jobs but are we really learning anything new and sharing our knowledge with others? Are we really growing and becoming a better version of ourselves with time? Well, I don’t know about others, but I am not.

To this, I thought, that where is the time even if I wish to learn or do something new apart from my job and house hold chores? Then I realized that, it is all about using your free time in the most productive manner and forming some good habits.

How to utilize your free time productively

So, next time whenever you have some free time with you, instead of lazing around, you can engage yourself in these activities:

1. READING

Try to read atleast 5 pages on a daily basis. Make it a habit and you will see the changes in you over a period of time. You can read anything you like, fiction, non fiction, biographies, auto biographies, news paper etc etc. Reading makes you thoughtful which gives you an edge over others. People who just cannot read, can listen to audio books. There is an application that I have recently discovered called “Storytel”. It offers amazing collection of audio books that you can listen anywhere and anytime. It offers 14 days of free trial and if you like, you can subscribe it for Rs 299 per month.

2. BLOG WRITING

Start writing your blog which you have been procrastinating. Pour your thoughts into your blog and let people read and know how insightful you are.

3. LEARNING NEW SKILL

Enroll yourself for any skill or course of your choice and get classes, free of cost while sitting in the comfort of your bed. Yes! In todays’ times, technology is a boon and there are so many websites from where we can learn any new skill or language of our choice. Websites such as Coursera and Skillshare offers variety of courses in any field that you can think of.

4. WATCH DOCUMENTARIES

You can watch documentaries on real life incidents and famous personalities like, what happened to Titanic?, What is Bermuda Triangle?, Life of Mahatma Gandhi etc. This will enhance your knowledge which will help you to be a part of intelligent conversations with your friends and colleagues. Such documentaries are available on Amazon Prime.

5. TRAVEL

Believe me guys, travelling gives you the finest experiences and teaches you the best lessons of life. Whenever, you get time, plan a small trip to any place as per the time you have or you can also visit famous monuments, any popular event, any exhibition, any fare or any new place to explore.


I hope some of you would find this post useful and would try to utilize their free time more productively from now on.


Keep learning, sharing and growing😊


Smiles & happiness to all🤩
Divya Srivastava

Little growth – Gratitude😊

Hi Friends, I am so overwhelmed seeing the little growth in my blog.

I am thankful to all of you for investing your time to read my posts and liking and following my blog. These small notifications just made my day💜🧡

I am full of gratitude. I’ll keep working hard towards my blog. I’ll ensure to continue posting articles worth reading.

Thank you so much🥰💜

Are you in search of Happiness🤔

Who wants to be sad and depressed. Every one wants to be happy and cheerful. But we fail to find happiness around us all the time.

But the question is What is happiness??

How do we find it? Where will we get it? How to achieve it? You can google happiness and you will find several websites teaching numerous ways to be happy. Isn’t it funny..?🤣

Few great men have said that happiness is a state of mind and I completely agree with it. Happiness is an emotion.

And, all the emotions in our mind are driven by hormones. God has designed humans in such a magical way that not just happiness, other emotions like, sorrow, anxiety, fear etc are all driven by hormones.

However, these hormones are triggered by outside factors.

4 Hormones which determine humans’ happiness.

  1. Endorphins,
  2. Dopamine,
  3. Serotonin,
  4. Oxytocin

We need all 4 of them to stay happy

♡When we exercise or play on the ground, the body releases Endorphins. Laughter is another good way of generating Endorphins.
Spend 30 minutes exercising or play or watch funny stuff to get our day’s dose of Endorphins.

♡When accomplish many little and big tasks, or get appreciated for our work at the office or at home or buy things, it releases various levels of Dopamine.

Serotonin is released when we act in a way that benefits others.
When we transcend ourselves and give back to others or to nature or to the society, or share with others, it releases Serotonin. Even,
providing useful information on the internet like writing information blogs, answering people’s questions on Quora or Facebook groups will generate Serotonin.

♡Oxytocin is released when we become close to other human beings.
When we hug, shake hands, hold someone, arms around someone shoulder Oxytocin is released.

So, now whenever you guys feel a little low or not so happy, just analyze which hormone is left behind and work towards achieving it. You’ll be happy forever..🤘😎💜

Fitness in 2019

Since few months, I have been trying to lose weight and be fit. I have noticed that more and more people have become health concious these days. You can find people of all age groups exercising in parks and Gyms. Few of them focus on diet and healthy eating as well.The purpose of exercising is different for everyone. But the ultimate goal is to be FIT. However, what is important is to understand here is, what is fitness?

Off late I have been going through a lot of fitness related videos and articles and I want to share a summary of it with you guys about what I have understood about being fit and healthy.

What is Fitness

Fitness means different to different people. Like for example :

  1. Being the slimmest version of themselves, or
  2. Disease free body, or
  3. Appropriate body weight, or
  4. Body with pumped up muscles, or
  5. Healthy and happy

Fitness is not limited to get the desired weight on the weighing scale or, owning a tiny waist.

Fitness actually means having a healthy body with a healthy and positive mind. It is a combination of all these :

  1. Appropriate BMI( Body Mass Index).
  2. One must feel energetic through out the day.
  3. Having good strength and stamina.
  4. Good immunity.
  5. Healthy and nutritious diet.
  6. Positive and happy mind.

How to start or introduce the idea of Fitness in our lives

Exercise is really important. As they say your body is your temple. This is the only place you have to live in, till you die.

So, taking care of our body should be our priority. Firstly, we must exercise for atleast 45 minutes for atleast 4 days a week. We can do this in any form, like:

  1. Power walking
  2. Yoga
  3. Gymming
  4. Aerobics
  5. Swimming
  6. Pilates
  7. Dancing and many more..

Secondly, we must eat a healthy and a balanced diet. Instead of having 3 big meals, we should take 5 to 8 small meals a day. We should eat in small proportions and on a fixed time everyday. Our focus should be on home made food which must include dal, green vegetables, curd, salad, fruits, dry fruits, milk, dairy products etc.

I am not asking you all to become a saint🤣. Obviously, once in a week, we must eat out and relish our favourite delicasies.

Lastly, we must practice gratitude and positive thinking and feed our mind with positive and happy thoughts.

Food for thought: Fitness is linked with happiness. I’ll come up with the details in my next blog.

Till then, be happy, be stylish and stay fit😎🤩😘