ME Time..

We all are running in this fast paced life, juggling between our professional and personal lives, trying to strike a balance. While most of us fail to achieve this balance, there are few highly organized and blessed souls who manage everything perfectly.

We are always under pressure to reach at work on time, to meet the deadlines, to look presentable and groomed, to be pro active, to be well versed with the latest developments in technology and in general, to achieve the targets, to maintain good relations with our boss(so that it helps in appraisal, no matter we like him or not) and the list goes on and on. Our office work consumes our whole day and squeezes out all our energy. We are not left with much time and energy to spend with family, friends and even to look after ourselves. We live a monotonous life for the whole week and desperately wait for the weekend.

Weekend arrives, and guess what we do. We spend half of the day sleeping and remaining half is consumed in house hold chores. Again, we don’t get any “me time” or time for leisure.

Blessed are those people who get two week offs in a week which they can utilize effectively.

We forget that our mind works continuously and it needs some time to unwind. There are times when our mind asks us to slow down a bit, take some time off for ourself, “me time” as they say and let our mind calm down.

I cannot talk enough about the importance of “me time” in which you just forget all the pressures of life and do what ever makes your nerves calm and relaxed. It renergizes you and your mind to face the battles of life again with fresh energy and focus.

Just try to find atleast 30 min for yourself everyday during which you can do what ever you want to do like..

♡Go for a walk.

♡Exercise in any form that you like.

♡Read

♡Blogging

♡ Watch your favourite series, movie or any serial.

♡Call your best friend for some chit chat.

♡ Medidate.

♡ Watch videos on YouTube.

♡Work on your personal grooming.

And what ever you can think of doing.

Take care of yourselves.

So, what do you do in your “me time”??

Keep Smiling😁

Divya Srivastava

Just a thought…

When God gives, gives everything from everywhere. When not, gives nothing from everywhere.

Keep Smiling🙂

Divya Srivatava

Am I a good person?

Sometimes I wonder and ask myself “am I a good person?” This thought or question is very tricky and there can be no right or wrong answer to it.

Who defines good or bad, right or wrong? Something that I may consider as a good quality in a person may not even hold that much of relevance to some one else.

Let me tell you why this thought often comes to my mind. I often notice people around me behaving with others in the most polite way. They have kind feelings or emotions for a cause, person or any incident. I see people handling worst situations in the best possible manner without hurting anyone. I see people who manages all their relations and friendships with all their heart and keep healthy relation with all throughout the years. There are people who never bad mouth anyone, who never talk behind back. There are people who are extremely caring and kind hearted, who always keep their self interest at the back seat.

When ever, I come across any such person, I say to myself, “he is such a good person”. But then, I immediately dig deep inside and try to find the same qualities in myself and when I don’t find it, I become clueless and doubt myself of being a good person at all.

This thought often comes to my mind and puts me on a mission to be a good person.

However, I have realized that every person is a good person in their own special ways and it is not possible to find all such qualities in one person itself. What we can do is, we can learn from people around us and try to imbibe their good qualities in us, if possible. But, we should not feel guilty and question our self worth.

I am always open to learn and imbibe new qualities in me. However, I know that I am a good person in my own special way🙂

Being good enough🤩😁

Divya Srivastava

How about decision making??

I was just scrolling the posts of other bloggers and saw a title related with decision making and suddenly thoughts started flowing in. I didn’t even bothered to open that post and started jotting down mine😬.This post is kind of dedicated to me and myself❤

I find it very difficult to talk about my qualities, don’t know why. I doubt if I have any😂😂.

But, this is something I can talk about and I know I am good at it.

Decision Making, they say it. I can say with pride that I am a good and a fast decision maker. Well, I am not talking about selecting a dress in a mall. Grow up guys😎. I mean taking decisions in general, in difficult situations, in personal situations, at work and like that. Many times, my husband and my friends consult me if they are confused and I take decisions quickly for them as well. I cannot claim that all decisions that I take turn out to be good, but then, that is not possible even. At least, I feel good about myself that I am capable to take decisions quicky rather than lingering on like many others.

I decide quicky because I have the courage to take the ownership of the consequences, whether good or bad. At least, the consequences would belong to the decision that I took, not somebody else. In the process, sometimes I get to learn from my wrong decisions and some other times, I enjoy the fruit of right decisions. In a way, I am getting wiser.

So, what makes me a good and a fast decision maker can make you the same as well. Here it is :

☆I am not afraid to take calculated risks.

☆I am confident, but not over confident.

☆I have the courage to take the ownership of my decisions and their consequences.

☆I am a positive person and open to learn new lessons in life.

☆I don’t like to waste 2 hours in taking a decision which can be taken in 15 minutes. I like to utilize my time productively.

Happy decision making😎🤩

Divya Srivastava

Hoping hopefully..😁

Can you imagine a life being hopeless, having no hope, no expectations and anticipation? Don’t you think life will be extremely dull with nothing to look forward to. Hope brings excitement and is powerful enough to change things for good.That is the way of living I believe. Hope keeps us going.

A lady trying to conceive lives on hope to get pregnant, every month that passes. An employee hopes to get the best appraisal possible in the performance review. A fisherman hopes to catch the maximum fishes while fishing. Everyone hopes for the best results for their hardwork and efforts.The list is endless.

Even if we don’t get what we hope, we must keep trying. But for that, we must have realistic hopes and expectations.

I mean something that can be achieved by putting in efforts in the right direction and not just hoping for something which is beyond our efforts. Expectation is merely an assumption for something to happen.Whereas hope is expecting with confidence, and confidence comes when we are able to make our efforts for that. So, few people say, that we should have zero expectations from everyone and everything as expectations are hurtful and disappointing. I some what agree that we should have minimum, not zero expectations, BUT we should have HIGH HOPE in life always and forever because :

♡Hope shows a light in the dark.

♡Hope brings a smile on our faces.

♡Hope energizes our aura.

♡Hope motivates to try again.

♡Hope gives a meaning to our being.

♡Hope makes us to reach our goals.

With high hopes😁🤗

Divya Srivastava

Lessons learnt in 2019

We are in the last week of 2019 and it is time to bid adieu to the year. I won’t say how good or bad the year was for me, rather I’ll focus on what all I learnt in this year. So, here I am with a list of things I learnt in 2019.

Health is wealth

I have realized that nothing can replace a healthy body. No matter, what your age is, if you are healthy, you’ll live a fuller life and eating healthy and being fit shows on your face, skin and on your body. It is truely said that

If wealth is lost, nothing is lost

If character is lost, something is lost

If health is lost, everything is lost.

Value your relations

The grass always looks greener on the other side, but truth be told, you already have or will eventually get what is meant for you. So, value your all relations, make efforts and make things better with your spouse, parents and friends instead of ignorance and infidelity.

Stay motivated

I have written an entire post on Self Motivation earlier. We all have our problems and miseries. But, if we’ll be sad and depressed all the time, even our bestest friend might not be able to cope up with it and we’ll end up being isolated and distanced from all which will eventually add to our miseries.

Stay positive and happy

If you’ll send positivity and happiness in the universe, you’ll get the same in return. Being positive and happy for no reason won’t solve your problems, neither would crying. So better be positive😁.

Love yourself

I cannot talk enough on the importance of Self Love. If you love yourself, you’ll never feel alone, even if you are, literally. Love yourself, your color, your shape, your good habits, your bad habits and everything about yourself. I am not promoting narcissism, just nourishing oneself with healthy self love. Not making it too long, you’ll have a different aura if you really love yourself.

Be better than before

Always strive to stay updated with the current affairs, general knowledge and keep learning new things. We should always try to move ahead with time and be the better version of ourselves everyday, as being stagnant is outdated, boring and being dull.

Happy New Year to all the readers🌸🎂🥳

Divya Srivastava

Putting myself together..

Hi guys. How are you all doing?

I don’t know why am I asking this.Well I know, no one is going to respond, like – “hey I am doing good. What about you?” I’ll be glad if some one does.

Well, I have been out of sight, out of time and out of focus and didn’t post anything in a month’s time. To begin with, I was buzy with family wedding and all, then office, then entangled in my swinging moods, my emotions, my thoughts, my shaking focus and what not. So, I don’t know what happened to me and is still going on that I am kind of losing my positive energy, my enthusiasm and my positivity as a whole. I am kind of feeling angry and anxious. It feels like nothing is falling into place. So much is there to be fulfilled and time is running short. I even don’t know why am I writing this all here, but it’s just coming out.

The good part is, that I know and I am able to realize that I am falling into the pit of negativity and I have to come out of it. So, today, I was figuring out the things to do which shall brighten up my mood and help me see the way out of this shit that is happening to me.

Well, I miss my friends whom I haven’t met since a long time. I have realized that, it has been sooooo long that I didn’t actually have had real fun and let my hair down without any formalities, without any judgements,without any worries.

Specially, real fun with all my girlfriends. I have very few however. Oh, I miss that sooo much. I was missing my blog as well. So, I came here and what can be better than sharing my unfiltered thoughts to get back to myself. I don’t know if anyone can relate with me. If any one has felt like this at times. I think it is fine to have such anxiousness at times as we are humans, but the important part is that we must be able to cope up and get over it.

I have all the wisdom if you notice😂.I just have to implement my wisdom and make things better and I am trying.

Smiles to all🙂😊😁😬

Divya Srivastava

Self Motivation

Self motivation is the only element that will take you to places when life is hitting you hard. Else you’ll be knocked down and the game will be over.

I have realized this in the recent times. No amount of counselling will help. Friends and family will support you morally to an extent beyond which you’ll have to collect yourself and your scattered thoughts and motivate yourself to start a fresh beginning, or give a second chance or find solutions to the problems.

When I am in pain, it feels as if I am the least favourite child of God and He is punishing me for my wrong deeds.

It fills me with guilt and anger. I cry a lot and get extremely dissatisfied with life. I feel like I have to struggle a lot for simple things in life which others get very easily. Even, I don’t expect much, just the basic things and pleasures of life which everyone is entitled to.

Struggling in such situations creates a lot of negativity in my mind. At times I pity myself. In such situations, I keep myself aloof. I don’t feel like talking or meeting anyone.

But you know what, I am a strong woman. I just don’t give up easily.

I keep struggling through such situations. I motivate myself and keep moving ahead. And while doing so, I have realized that it’s not just me. Everyone is going through their fair share of problems and miseries. So, it feels little better and balanced😝.

Tips to motivate yourself

  • Make lifestyle changes – start exercising, eat a healthy and balanced diet.
  • Watch motivational and positive videos.
  • Keep yourself occupied through out the day.
  • Start reading.
  • Try to form some good habits.
  • Be focussed on your goals and find solutions to the problems.
  • Try and smile as much possible.
  • Get rid of negative thoughts.
  • Make it a habit to think positively in every situation.( I know, it is hard but keep trying)
  • Imagine the bright future of your struggle and keep moving ahead.
  • Listen to light and happy songs to elevate your mood.

I was wondering, have you ever felt the same like I have articulated my emotions?

Let’s talk🙂

Love & laughter🤩😁

Divya Srivastava

Please Listen….

Never lose a person in your life who not only talks to you, but listens as well. Having a good listener in your life is essential for a peaceful mind. But, we should not take that person for granted, and must understand that a good listener also expects to be listened.

I want to shout out to people and tell everyone to come out of your social media applications and leave your mobiles aside for some time and talk and listen to the people around you, at your home, with your spouse, your children, your parents, at work with your colleagues and where ever you go, whom so ever you meet. Please talk and listen.

What I have observed is, there are 3 types of people :

  • People who talks a lot. They keep on blaberring without even understanding the other person’s interest and they are not even interested to listen to anyone else or talk about anything which do not interests them.
  • People who talks less, so they end up listening more.
  • People who understands the value of a dialogue between 2 people. They are the wisest community of people. They talk, understand the other person’s emotions and listen to them as well.

Lack of communication creates lot of problems in relationships, be it with friends, family or colleagues.

People who are outspoken, who likes to talk, do not want to listen. There are others who wants to talk but their desire is overshadowed by their reserved nature. So they hesitate and shy away from sharing their thoughts. As a result, they keep their thoughts and emotions to themselves and surround themselves with people who talk more, so they can listen. Opposite attracts, they say!

This is the problem. People don’t understand the value of a dialogue. Only one person talking, and the other listening is called a monologue.

This is my request to everyone reading this post, that give the other person a chance and an opporrunity to be heard. Let THEM also talk. If you care.

So, few of you must be wondering that “my spouse, or my friend or my mother generally talks less. That is their nature. I am always ready to listen”. I completely understand these thoughts. But, my friends, we need to understand, that they are reserved people and hesitate to talk openly, no matter, they are filled with varied emotions. Such people tend to burst out when they get saturated.

So, we need to help them. As per my understanding, let me share few ideas with you.

  • Ask questions. Instead of expecting that person to initiate the conversation(which will never happen), make them talk. Questions “like how was your day?”, “anything new or exciting happened today or recently?”. Share your stuff and ask if he/she has ever been in the similar situation. Ask generally about the people he/she keeps in touch with.
  • Give them the comfort zone. Make them realize that they are not being judged for whatever they feel or talk.
  • Pay attention when they are talking and give them importance and make them realize that you want to listen to them.
  • Assign tasks(if possible), such as weekend planning, vacation planning, planning a party with friends, preparing a shopping list or whatever comes to your mind. This will make them do their homework and will be forced to talk about the subject and eventually their emotions related to it.

Let’s help each other, atleast to those whom we love and care.🧡

Share your ideas, stories and thoughts about it. I would love to read it.

Love & laughter🌸🤩

Divya Srivastava

Experimental Reading

Hi Guys, I have started reading a new book called “Rich Dad Poor Dad” written by Robert T. Kiyosaki.

The title some how attracted me, and after reading the synopsis, I decided to give it a try. This is a kind of experimental reading because this is the first time, I am reading something like this. Normally, I read fictional love stories with different story angles. Generally they are written by Indian authors, like Ravinder Singh, Nikita Singh, Durjoy Dutta to name a few. So, I am reading a book by International author for the first time.

This book is a best seller since 20 years and celebrated it’s 20th anniversary in April’ 2017.

This is not a book review. Hence, I’ll not share much details about the book as of now. Let me finish the book, post which I’ll share my views and the review ofcourse😎.

Till then, take care👍🌸

Divya Srivastava