Do you like CHANGE?

How many of you like CHANGE or you even look forward to that? Any kind of change, at workplace, in your relationships, at home, in daily routine or any thing that you may think of. Well, not many, I am sure. Am I right? I think, that’s quite normal because we get accustomed to our daily routines, we get comfortable with our old friends, family members and relatives and we become a pro in performing the old jobs at work every day. We get so used to, to the existing pattern of life, that we dislike any change for which we might have to make different kind of efforts and for some changes, we might have to come out of our comfort zone as well. When I say existing pattern of life, it means, we are doing nothing new, we are following the same course each and every day and most importantly, we are in our comfort zones. Well, I don’t know about others, but any kind of change, definitely gives me a kick. I am NOT saying that I LIKE changes, but somehow I always look forward to change. It can be any kind of change. The weird part is this, even if I know that the upcoming change would be unfavourable to me or might be difficult to cope up with, still it kind of gives me an excitement. I don’t know if this is normal or people may find my personality a bit strange.

What I have analysed about my personality based on the above is :

  • I like challenges.
  • I get bored very soon with the same pattern of life each day.
  • I believe in myself that I have the capacity to deal with anything.
  • I believe that I am not completely utilizing my capacity to do whatever needs to be done or what ever I want to do.
  • I am a firm believer that life offers different phases and each phase of life must be enjoyed.

 

Do you find me strange or can you relate with me if you have similar personality traits like mine?

Do share your thoughts with me.

 

Looking Forward,

Divya Srivastava

 

 

Uncertainty

Life is fragile, I always knew but it has become so uncertain these days. This is something I have never experienced or witnessed before. The uncertainty these days have crossed the boundaries.
No one can imagine what might happen the very next moment. The incidents happening around me have scared me and made me highly anxious. I doubt whether I’ll be able to see the next morning, whether I’ll see my husband in the evening after work, whether I’ll meet my parents the next time. Such negative thoughts shouldn’t arise that often. But I can’t help it. Recently one of my close relatives expired without any major illness.

He was a healthy man, around 55. He had some cogestion in his chest since 2 days which caused him difficulty in breathing. However, he was on medication and it was nothing that serious.

He was sitting on his bed talking to his son when he suddenly collapsed. He had a heart failure. Within seconds, he was gone. His family couldn’t understand what had happened. They took him to hospital where he was declared “brought dead”. The entire family is in shock. No one is able to digest this fact that he is no more. More over, the way he died is unimaginable, which no one can imagine in their wildest of dreams.

Positive aspect is this that he left the world without any pain and suffering. He had a kind of death which every one would want whenever their time would come, ie, to die without any pain and suffering.

It makes me to think that life is so precious. We should be grateful to God that we have been given this life. We should make most of it and most importantly, we should respect the life that we have got and should respect our body and health as well. We shouldn’t be taking our health for granted. Hence, we should practice all the healthy habits to ensure that we are keeping up with our efforts to respect life and body that we have been gifted.

Take Care

Divya Srivastava

Drops of Wisdom

I heard someone saying these words. I want to share it with you all.

What is the use of your education, if you cannot be polite, if you cannot control your anger, if you do not respect people. You should choose your words wisely and should not insult anyone, no matter what. How will YOU feel if the same words you use for others in rage and anger will be said to you.”

We all are aware of these basic mannerisms but somewhere we tend to forget and ignore these aspects and take everything and everyone around us for granted.

I think we should keep reminding ourselves these lines to practice this ideal behavior standing true to our education.

With warmth & smiles😁

Divya Srivastava

ME Time..

We all are running in this fast paced life, juggling between our professional and personal lives, trying to strike a balance. While most of us fail to achieve this balance, there are few highly organized and blessed souls who manage everything perfectly.

We are always under pressure to reach at work on time, to meet the deadlines, to look presentable and groomed, to be pro active, to be well versed with the latest developments in technology and in general, to achieve the targets, to maintain good relations with our boss(so that it helps in appraisal, no matter we like him or not) and the list goes on and on. Our office work consumes our whole day and squeezes out all our energy. We are not left with much time and energy to spend with family, friends and even to look after ourselves. We live a monotonous life for the whole week and desperately wait for the weekend.

Weekend arrives, and guess what we do. We spend half of the day sleeping and remaining half is consumed in house hold chores. Again, we don’t get any “me time” or time for leisure.

Blessed are those people who get two week offs in a week which they can utilize effectively.

We forget that our mind works continuously and it needs some time to unwind. There are times when our mind asks us to slow down a bit, take some time off for ourself, “me time” as they say and let our mind calm down.

I cannot talk enough about the importance of “me time” in which you just forget all the pressures of life and do what ever makes your nerves calm and relaxed. It renergizes you and your mind to face the battles of life again with fresh energy and focus.

Just try to find atleast 30 min for yourself everyday during which you can do what ever you want to do like..

♡Go for a walk.

♡Exercise in any form that you like.

♡Read

♡Blogging

♡ Watch your favourite series, movie or any serial.

♡Call your best friend for some chit chat.

♡ Medidate.

♡ Watch videos on YouTube.

♡Work on your personal grooming.

And what ever you can think of doing.

Take care of yourselves.

So, what do you do in your “me time”??

Keep Smiling😁

Divya Srivastava

Am I a good person?

Sometimes I wonder and ask myself “am I a good person?” This thought or question is very tricky and there can be no right or wrong answer to it.

Who defines good or bad, right or wrong? Something that I may consider as a good quality in a person may not even hold that much of relevance to some one else.

Let me tell you why this thought often comes to my mind. I often notice people around me behaving with others in the most polite way. They have kind feelings or emotions for a cause, person or any incident. I see people handling worst situations in the best possible manner without hurting anyone. I see people who manages all their relations and friendships with all their heart and keep healthy relation with all throughout the years. There are people who never bad mouth anyone, who never talk behind back. There are people who are extremely caring and kind hearted, who always keep their self interest at the back seat.

When ever, I come across any such person, I say to myself, “he is such a good person”. But then, I immediately dig deep inside and try to find the same qualities in myself and when I don’t find it, I become clueless and doubt myself of being a good person at all.

This thought often comes to my mind and puts me on a mission to be a good person.

However, I have realized that every person is a good person in their own special ways and it is not possible to find all such qualities in one person itself. What we can do is, we can learn from people around us and try to imbibe their good qualities in us, if possible. But, we should not feel guilty and question our self worth.

I am always open to learn and imbibe new qualities in me. However, I know that I am a good person in my own special way🙂

Being good enough🤩😁

Divya Srivastava

How about decision making??

I was just scrolling the posts of other bloggers and saw a title related with decision making and suddenly thoughts started flowing in. I didn’t even bothered to open that post and started jotting down mine😬.This post is kind of dedicated to me and myself❤

I find it very difficult to talk about my qualities, don’t know why. I doubt if I have any😂😂.

But, this is something I can talk about and I know I am good at it.

Decision Making, they say it. I can say with pride that I am a good and a fast decision maker. Well, I am not talking about selecting a dress in a mall. Grow up guys😎. I mean taking decisions in general, in difficult situations, in personal situations, at work and like that. Many times, my husband and my friends consult me if they are confused and I take decisions quickly for them as well. I cannot claim that all decisions that I take turn out to be good, but then, that is not possible even. At least, I feel good about myself that I am capable to take decisions quicky rather than lingering on like many others.

I decide quicky because I have the courage to take the ownership of the consequences, whether good or bad. At least, the consequences would belong to the decision that I took, not somebody else. In the process, sometimes I get to learn from my wrong decisions and some other times, I enjoy the fruit of right decisions. In a way, I am getting wiser.

So, what makes me a good and a fast decision maker can make you the same as well. Here it is :

☆I am not afraid to take calculated risks.

☆I am confident, but not over confident.

☆I have the courage to take the ownership of my decisions and their consequences.

☆I am a positive person and open to learn new lessons in life.

☆I don’t like to waste 2 hours in taking a decision which can be taken in 15 minutes. I like to utilize my time productively.

Happy decision making😎🤩

Divya Srivastava

Hoping hopefully..😁

Can you imagine a life being hopeless, having no hope, no expectations and anticipation? Don’t you think life will be extremely dull with nothing to look forward to. Hope brings excitement and is powerful enough to change things for good.That is the way of living I believe. Hope keeps us going.

A lady trying to conceive lives on hope to get pregnant, every month that passes. An employee hopes to get the best appraisal possible in the performance review. A fisherman hopes to catch the maximum fishes while fishing. Everyone hopes for the best results for their hardwork and efforts.The list is endless.

Even if we don’t get what we hope, we must keep trying. But for that, we must have realistic hopes and expectations.

I mean something that can be achieved by putting in efforts in the right direction and not just hoping for something which is beyond our efforts. Expectation is merely an assumption for something to happen.Whereas hope is expecting with confidence, and confidence comes when we are able to make our efforts for that. So, few people say, that we should have zero expectations from everyone and everything as expectations are hurtful and disappointing. I some what agree that we should have minimum, not zero expectations, BUT we should have HIGH HOPE in life always and forever because :

♡Hope shows a light in the dark.

♡Hope brings a smile on our faces.

♡Hope energizes our aura.

♡Hope motivates to try again.

♡Hope gives a meaning to our being.

♡Hope makes us to reach our goals.

With high hopes😁🤗

Divya Srivastava

Lessons learnt in 2019

We are in the last week of 2019 and it is time to bid adieu to the year. I won’t say how good or bad the year was for me, rather I’ll focus on what all I learnt in this year. So, here I am with a list of things I learnt in 2019.

Health is wealth

I have realized that nothing can replace a healthy body. No matter, what your age is, if you are healthy, you’ll live a fuller life and eating healthy and being fit shows on your face, skin and on your body. It is truely said that

If wealth is lost, nothing is lost

If character is lost, something is lost

If health is lost, everything is lost.

Value your relations

The grass always looks greener on the other side, but truth be told, you already have or will eventually get what is meant for you. So, value your all relations, make efforts and make things better with your spouse, parents and friends instead of ignorance and infidelity.

Stay motivated

I have written an entire post on Self Motivation earlier. We all have our problems and miseries. But, if we’ll be sad and depressed all the time, even our bestest friend might not be able to cope up with it and we’ll end up being isolated and distanced from all which will eventually add to our miseries.

Stay positive and happy

If you’ll send positivity and happiness in the universe, you’ll get the same in return. Being positive and happy for no reason won’t solve your problems, neither would crying. So better be positive😁.

Love yourself

I cannot talk enough on the importance of Self Love. If you love yourself, you’ll never feel alone, even if you are, literally. Love yourself, your color, your shape, your good habits, your bad habits and everything about yourself. I am not promoting narcissism, just nourishing oneself with healthy self love. Not making it too long, you’ll have a different aura if you really love yourself.

Be better than before

Always strive to stay updated with the current affairs, general knowledge and keep learning new things. We should always try to move ahead with time and be the better version of ourselves everyday, as being stagnant is outdated, boring and being dull.

Happy New Year to all the readers🌸🎂🥳

Divya Srivastava