Why do you blog?

There are so many articles in WordPress talking about how to blog, blogging prompts, effective way of blogging, how your blogs should be SEO friendly, how to increase traffic on your blog by using the right words. People also say that one should write on the trending topics to get maximum traffic.

These are completely valid points. But I don’t follow any of these. The question is Why do you blog? What motivates you to blog?

Well, following the above instructions, one would be able to get more and more traffic on one’s blog, expand blog family and would be able to get monetising opportunities and much more. Ofcourse, I also intend to do that and get the opportunities. I also want to expand my blogging world and be a flourished blogger. But, if I’d follow the above mentioned instructions as of now, it would be too technical for me and the feel of writing would vanish.

For me, blogging is an emotional release. I write from my heart. I don’t research my topics and get information from internet and formalise my posts. My articles are purely my thoughts put into words. It’s a therapy for Me. I feel better, lighter, happier when I write. I love to read other blogs and appreciate the boggers as well. I like to share my opinions and suggestions as well which you know, are not very welcomed otherwise in general day to day life.

This is a platform where I can pour my heart without filters, I can be opinionated and may be I would be able to monetise my blog in future, who knows? I started this blog in 2019, when I was going through a rough and challenging phase. I really needed something to which I could stick and forget my pain and since then, my blog has been my constant and loyal friend😀🦋.

I get really excited when I get even 1 new follower. Whenever I see bloggers who have followers in hundreds and thousands, it motivates me and I also dream to reach till there and beyond. I want to become a popular blogger & gradually I’ll learn the technicalities as well, but, my way.😎

You tell me, why do you blog?

Happy Blogging,✨🪄

Divya Srivastava

My 11 tiny moments of happiness😀

We often look out for big moments or I would say much noticeable ones to feel happy. Let’s say, going on a holiday, buying some expensive clothing, gadget, automobile or whatever. Getting desired results in academics, at work etc.

It is pretty much obvious these moments and achievements will bring happiness and there is nothing wrong in looking out or waiting for these. It is absolutely fine and you must.

However, while doing so, we forget or I would say, we fail to notice the small and tiny moments in our everyday life that brings joy and makes our lives more livable, smoother and happier😊.

So, today I want to share few of my small & tiny moments or things that brings a smile on my face😊 and makes me look forward to another day.

🦋A kadak adrak Chai ☕. I am an absolute tea lover and I just love the adrak Chai ( Ginger Tea ). I can’t tell you the kind of satisfaction it gives me specially when I’m exhausted or just not in the good mood and it is heaven in winters.(I’m having it even while writing this blog)😂. You won’t believe I look forward to my morning and evening tea😋.

🦋 The warmth of a blanket in air conditioner and in winters makes me so cozy & comfortable. It brings a warm smile to my face.

🦋Talking to my mum. Meeting her is a bonus. Even a small talk on call (our call sessions are normally not small though😂) makes me happy.

🦋 Similarly, talking to my bestie. We gossip, we bitch, we share and what not on call and meeting her is so fun. We have not met since a year due to Covid.

🦋Red wine with pizza and mix sause pasta is an absolute delight which I love.

🦋I feel so relaxed, content and happy when my husband returns from office early or atleast by 8 in the evening. I feel he is the one who brings shine & light to our home and to my life.

🦋 Now, that I’m a mommy, seeing my girl smile,laugh and play makes me so so joyful. She will complete her 5 months on 22nd of this month.

🦋Spending time with myself. Getting some ME TIME.

🦋 Blogging is love.

🦋Self care and self grooming makes me happy.

🦋Watching movies & series with my hubby at night is something, I always look forward to. I never enjoy watching something without him.

So guys, What are your small moments of happiness?? Notice them and let’s share😀.

Stay happy ❤️

Divya Srivastava

Postpartum Blues

The moment you guys will start reading this post, you are going to think that Divya just keeps talking about her baby and things related to her.

Well, this is the reality and this is my life now. Specially this postpartum period. I am going mad and crazy. Immediately after my delivery, in the first 40 to 50 days, I was waiting to get back to my normal diet and normal daily activities. I mean that period is meant for complete rest and a full fledged healthy and heavy diet. And I was waiting to get out of bed, get dressed up, start my weight loss programme, start my normal daily activities. Actually, I am not that sort who can just be in bed all day resting in payjamas. Then finally after around 1.5 months, I started getting to normal routine gradually. I felt good about myself and loved spending time with my girl and taking care of her.

To my horror, as soon as she completed 3 months, my hairfall began. I had heard of it that women experience postpartum hairfall but didn’t knew that it starts after few months of delivery. So, till 3 months, there was no hairfall and I thought I am the lucky one 😂.

But no, hairfall has started and my hair falls in clumps even if I touch them☹️.

I am so stressed. It gives me a nightmare and I feel I’ll go bald if it won’t stop soon.

However, as per the information via internet, it will stop on it’s own but when, that varies from person to person. It can stop in 3 months or 6 months. For some it can go on till 1 year which is horrible. I keep praying for my hairfall to stop as early as possible.

I have gone through a lot of videos on YouTube and every one says it’s completely normal and happens with all as the estrogen (hormone) drops after delivery, so the hair which didn’t fall throughout the pregnancy will fall now. It’s a complete hormonal game guys 🥴.

This phase of hairfall is called Telogen Effluvium.

I can’t express my state of mind currently. This was about my hairfall. On the other hand, I am struggling to lose weight. I exercise for 30 minutes as of now(I am thinking to increase the time) and follow a balanced and mindful diet. Normally, it is said that weight loses at a faster pace in the beginning, then it slows down after some time. But, mine is quite slow in the beginning itself. I get so anxious at times. I guess this is what is known as Postpartum Blues. Thankfully, my baby is really sweet and she doesn’t disturb me much at night and let me sleep.

In another 1 month, my maternity break will get over and I’ll have to resume office which is another challenge as I don’t have anyone from family. It’s just me and my husband. Hopefully, I’ll be working from home due to Covid.

Well, this is my everyday life these days. I just hope everything gets normal soon. Mother hood is an incredible and beautiful experience but the whole journey, starting from pregnancy to the postpartum 1 year is really difficult. I can say this since I have and I am experiencing the same. Hats off to all the mothers🤠🤠.

Hey guys, share your experiences and journey about your pregnancy, motherhood or postpartum in the comments section. Let’s discuss with each other. We might feel better and also can learn from each other’s experiences🥰💜.

Love & Light,

Divya Srivastava

Why do Good Things happen To Bad People? The Law of Karma & Manifestation

Many question, ‘Why is there so much of injustice in this world? Why do immoral people escape punishment whilst honest individuals are made to suffer?’ The old adage should say: Nothing is certain but death and taxes… and Karma. Karma is as real as it gets. The various holy books made sure to state that ‘What ye […]

Why do Good Things happen To Bad People? The Law of Karma & Manifestation

1000 Likes – Milestone

Hi WordPress family,

I am so happy and joyful today. I feel so ecstatic to share that I have touched 1000 likes on my blog.😀😀😀 Yes, I know, it is a very small number for many out there, but, it means a lot to me.

1000 likes means 1000 people dropped by, spent their precious time to read my posts and liked them. I thank all of you from the bottom of my heart ❤️.

I never thought I would reach till here when I had created my site. But now, it is just one step of the staircase for me. I am so motivated to write more and expand my wordpress family, get more & more likes and followers.

I just love to blog🤩. Guys please, send me your good wishes that I touch 1000 followers soon.😇

Happy Blogging,

Divya Srivastava

Teachings to my daughter

I cannot be thankful enough for the blessing in the form of my girl that GOD has bestowed upon me. I can’t believe HE has been so kind to me. I always wanted a girl deep down in my heart and HE knew and fulfilled my secret wish😇.

There are few things that I, as a young girl learnt and understood much later in life, but I would teach my girl to help her create a strong foundation since the beginning itself.

So, this post is dedicated to my little love ❤️.

Dear Shivantika,

Here are your foundation life lessons.

🦩Beauty is not defined by your skin colour, your weight or height. Ofcourse, fitness is important, but, for your good health and your own sanity. It doesn’t define your beauty.

🦩Your beauty lies in your confidence, your kindness, your knowledge, your forgiveness, your respectfulness, your eagerness to learn, your playfulness, your fighting spirit, your ambitions. It lies in your hearty and carefree laughs, in your smiles, in your cries.

🦩Value yourself and never self pity.

🦩Be confident always, no matter the situation, the place, the people, the mood.

🦩 Show some kindness in this cruel world.

🦩Be respectful towards all, no matter young or elder. Walkaway from people who don’t reciprocate.

🦩Have your opinions and never hesitate to share them politely and humbly.

🦩Never seek validation for your looks, your thoughts, your opinions, your acts from others. Be self assured. Be truthful to yourself and others.

🦩Never break anybody’s trust on you.

🦩Follow your heart not people.

🦩Go out, make friends, enjoy life and always remember, your mum has your back.

Always loving you,

Your mum❤️

Shivantika is just 4 month’s old as of now. I hope I would be able to inculcate these lessons in her upbringing.

Let me know if you all want to see her. I would love to share her pictures here😊🥰.

Full of gratitude,

Divya Srivastava

Broken Language

How many of you use short forms or spell the words as per your convenience and comfort while texting a friend or anyone or on social media for that matter? Like, wanna, gonna, frn, blv (believe), rcv (receive) and there are many more such examples.

Few of them are actually slangs and are used in American English in informal conversation in spoken English. Such words have no place in formal and written English. While there are other short forms created by us as per our convenience which has no meaning at all. We have become too lazy to type the full word with it’s actual spelling. This trend has become so popular that we all even understand each other’s short forms very easily.

Infact, I am also guilty of using these short forms. Slangs are still fine but other short forms created by us is really pathetic and it talks a lot about the person using them.

Why people use Slangs & Short forms

💡People find it cool & modern language.

💡It has become a trend, hence everyone uses them blindly.

💡People are actually poor in spellings, hence use the short forms.

💡Many years back, when sms was chargeable, people tried to send a sms in the smallest form possible to save money.

💡Laziness to type the complete word.

Negative Impact of such short forms

💡We tend to get confuse and forget actual and correct spelling of basic words at times.

💡We are deteriorating in terms of grammar, correct spoken and written English.

💡Out of habit, we use such self made spellings and slangs in formal comunication at times leaving a poor impression.

💡The interpretation of the message goes wrong at times.

Personal Experience

I was shocked the day I realised that I was forgetting the spelling of basic words. I have stopped using such short forms since then. I write complete words and sentences and trust me it gives a different feeling and will not consume your much time.

Try it. It’s a good practise.👍

Be Safe,😇

Divya Srivastava

Life Update..

I don’t know where to start from. It’s been sooo long. A complete year since my last post. So much has happened in this 1 year that I was dying to share with you all but somehow couldn’t post anything here. And now, since I am little settled, I realised that My Blog has been majorly missing from my to do list, however, it is always in my heart and constantly running through my mind.

So, first of all, let me start with some good news.

I have been blessed with a baby girl❤️.

My little love was born in Jan’2021. Yes, I am a mother now. I feel so happy and joyful while sharing this🥰. I am a new mom. It’s been 4 months now and I just cannot express in words how it feels. Ofcourse, all the moms would resonate with me. The feeling is just amazing and incredible. Ofcourse, being a new mom means lot of work, tiredness and elusive sleep, but my heart is so full of gratitude
💜.

Year 2020 was a roller coaster ride for me. Me and my husband were on cloud nine to know about our pregnancy in May’2020. From there on, our pregnancy journey started. Whole India was under lockdown due to Covid outbreak and my hormones were going crazy. I was nauseas all the time, vomiting, going through mood swings, managing office and home all simultaneously. And then, my worst nightmare came true. I got Covid positive. Me, my husband and my parents, all got positive at the same time in October end. That was the worst phase during my pregnancy. I was not worried about myself. I was only concerned for my baby as I was in 3rd trimester and I wouldn’t been able to bear any harm to my baby. Thankfully, I recovered at home itself without any complication. However, that phase drained me to a great extent physically and emotionally. Infact, we all got recovered at home by following the basic guidelines and instructions of the doctor.

Anyways, it is truly said that “All is well that ends well”. Finally, I delivered my doll in Jan’2021 via C section. I am enjoying motherhood a lot.

By the way, I have put on a lot weight which is very obvious😭 and now I am struggling to lose it. Please share some tips and suggestions to lose weight fast🙄. Also, now I am back and will be posting regularly here🥰🎊.

So, see you all very soon in my next post.

Be safe every one😊

Divya Srivastava

Stress Management!

We were already stressed and this COVID19 has added to our miseries. Well, I would not talk much about this pandemic. It has already consumed much space in news channels, news articles and every where. So, let’s talk about some thing else.

Even before COVID19, we were all stressed and we remain stressful all the time. Stress has become a normal aspect of our lives. People of all age groups experience stress and anxiety due to different reasons. Infact, few people’s stress levels are so high, that they need medical help to cope up with it. They take anti stress and anti anxiety pills regularly. We all know that severe stress leads to many problems and diseases in our body and it is extremely harmful for our health. Still, we fail to manage it.

Simple stress if becomes a habit for us leads to :

  • Severe head aches, shoulder aches and upper body pain
  • aggravates sugar level in diabetic patients
  • Insomnia
  • Disturbs menstrual cycle
  • Becomes a hindrance for women who are trying to conceive
  • Disturbs hormones inside our body
  • Severe mood swings
  • Restlessness in the body

Chronic stress leads to panic and anxiety attacks.

In today’s times, we have fast paced lives and high demanding jobs, so little stress in inevitable. However, we should not let that stress take a toll on us and we should learn to manage the stress. What I have observed is, we fail to manage our stress because we fail to identify the reason of the same. Most of the times, we are stressed either because of the painful memories of the past or because of worrying about the future.

Painful Memories:

We all have some painful memories in different forms which are hard to forget and whenever we think about it, we get upset and stressed. Painful memories such as :

  • Lost some one whom you loved dearly
  • Broken marriage
  • Heavy loss in business
  • Lost your job
  • Some one was really harsh and mean to you, whose mean words you just can’t forget and it pinches your heart every time you think about that.
  • Failed to clear that exam for which you studied day and night
  • Couldn’t achieve promotion because of biasness at work place
  • Betrayal by some one you loved

People can have any kind of painful memories.

Stress Management – Painful Memories of Past

  • Try to keep yourself occupied through out the day. Always remember that our mind thinks and works continuously. So when you’ll be occupied in some tasks, your mind will also be occupied and the moment you’ll be idle, the negative thoughts will start seeping in.
  • Talk it out. Even if you are little stressed about something, or if something is bothering you, talk to some one whom you confide in and release your tension. Keeping your emotions inside will aggravate the tension. You can even write it down in your personal diary if you don’t like talking about it. This will also help.
  • Believe in KARMA. Always remember, how people treat you is their Karma, how you react is yours. We all create our own Karmic cycles by our thoughts and actions. If someone has wronged you, forget vengeance and forgive that person, so that your karmic cycle with that person shall end there.(I am not talking about extreme cases, where legal action must be taken, like theft, robbery, rape, molestation, murder, fraud etc). Have faith, that God is watching and we all pay for our bad Karmas and ripe fruits for our good Karmas.

I know these things are easier said than done. But life is about moving on and living in the present. So, stop dwelling in the painful memories of the past, be strong, positive and create beautiful memories in the present to over shadow the past.

Worrying About Future

Worrying about future is a normal phenomenon. There are few common reasons why we worry so much.

  • Will we be able to match up to the society’s lifestyle seeing the inflation, and no such growth in income.
  • Will we be able to buy our own house.
  • Will we be able to provide good education to our children.
  • How will we manage after retirement.
  • Will I be able to crack that interview, get that promotion, get that job, get into my dream college etc etc.

There are numerous reasons to worry about.

Stress Management – Worrying About Future

  • Instead of worrying, start PLANNING. First of all, make sure to have few basic insurance policies in your pocket, like : ☆ Health insurance policy for your family. ☆ Life insurance policy of the earning member of the family. ☆Term insurance for your spouse
  • Save your money. Start saving your money in different investing and saving options available with the banks. If you don’t have knowledge or time to understand these options, their benefits, risks etc, then take help from a financial advisor, who will guide you and help you in saving your money. The simplest form of saving your money is in the form of FDs and RDs, they have no risk at all and gives decent interest. Atleast, you’ll have a satisfaction, that you are doing something for your future.
  • Generate other source of income. Private jobs are high demanding and always at risk, and we have monthly expenses to meet which keeps on increasing day by day. So, creating additional source of income apart from your monthly salary is a good idea which will help you save, meet unexpected expenses and will make you little relaxed as well.
  • If your concerns are related to things in which you need to study hard and prepare in advance, work hard at work to get the appraisals, then make sure you do that. Make sure to give your 100% in what ever you do, because that is only what you have in your control. You can do nothing beyond giving your 100%. Give your best and leave things to God. What ever happens, happens for good. But be honest with yourself and screw yourself if you failed to give 100% and try again.

Be Stress Free🤠🤗

Divya Srivastava

Watch me on YouTube

Hey Everyone, how are you all?

I am happy to announce and let my WordPress family know that I have started my YouTube journey. I have created my own channel – Divya’s World, where I put up videos related to lifestyle, food and health.

It’s been a while only, not many days. Hence, I have been able to upload a few videos only. However, I’ll keep uploading. Here is my channel.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmByHagxrC0QbBDGsCXA-zg

Do check my channel. If you like my content, then plz subscribe and like my videos.

I have been uploading videos related to lifestyle and food. I am still to figure out what kind of videos shall I upload related to health. Give me your ideas and suggestions friends. I am really excited 🙈😁

Take Care,

Divya Srivastava